Some years ago I started keeping prayer cards instead of a prayer list. A 3x 5 gives plenty of room to record updates and answers. Another benefit: It’s easy to rotate through the stack, praying for ten to fifteen people/organizations per day.
One card in the stack trips me up. At the top is written the name of “a difficult person.” He’s arrogant, dishonest, and unreliable.
I know I need to include him in my prayers, but I hardly know where to begin, except for “God, help this man!”
So I finally did some reading on the subject of difficult people, to find out how to pray for such individuals. Below are several suggestions I found helpful. If you have challenging folks in your life, perhaps you’ll find these thoughts useful also.
First, I need to begin with repentance. Before I pray about the faults and shortcomings of others, I need to address my own (Matthew 7:1-5). In addition, before I look at the person to be forgiven, I must look to God for the power to forgive.*
Second, I can ask God to:
- Open the heart of this person to the error(s) of his ways.
- Reveal the truth of the gospel to him—that Jesus is the only Way to salvation.
- Grant the person self-awareness so he’ll see how his choices and behavior negatively impact others.
- Curtail his influence so that innocent people might be protected.
- Bring godly people into his sphere, to exemplify the God-enhanced life.
- Cause circumstances that draw his attention to God.
- Reveal the difference to him between godly wisdom and human foolishness.
Third, I can praise God that:
- He is sovereign over all—even difficult people.
- He can cause positive outcomes—in spite of erroneous judgments.
- “Mistakes” on their part can actually produce God-ordained benefits.
And just how might such a prayer unfold? Perhaps something like this:
Oh, God, as I pray for those who
cause great frustration and even suffering for others,
it’s easy to lose sight of my own sinfulness.
I have not lived free of pride, dishonesty or unreliability either.
Forgive me, Father, for the many ways
I fall short of your desires for me.
Thank you for your grace and love that
prompt you to accept my confession and
prod me toward greater reliance upon you,
to become a better version of myself.
Because I fall short
(even though I know you as my Savior and Master),
it is with deep humility I pray for Mr. X.
I am no better than he is.
First, may he recognize the truth of your Word
and the reality of salvation through your Son, Jesus.
I pray Mr. X will seek the Light of your wisdom to guide his way.
May your Holy Spirit shed Light on the choices he’s already made,
and reveal to him the full, true consequences of his behavior.
Guide him to change course to your ways.
I thank you, Lord, that every day you are
sending Christians into Mr. X’s life as bearers of your Light,
to draw him to you.
You are engineering circumstances that highlight your power,
and using that sovereign power to curtail his influence.
I thank you for your ability
to produce positive outcomes even through difficult people.
The story of Joseph is one example.
In addition, even mistakes on the part of Mr. X
can actually produce just and righteous benefits.
Oh, how I praise you, Almighty God,
that you have established your throne in heaven,
and your kingdom rules over all—
even over difficult people.
(Psalm 51:1-5; Romans 3:23; Romans 7:18; Ecclesiastes 2:13; John 16:13; Psalm 119:130; Matthew 5:16; Romans 1:20; Psalm 37:17; Proverbs 19:21; Psalm 103:19)
*Ralph Sockman,The Higher Happiness, Pierce & Smith, 1950, p. 107.
How do you pray for difficult people? Please share your insights in the Comments section below!
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The Mind of Christ
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“Who has known the mind of the Lord?” Paul asked (1 Corinthians 2:16).
That’s an easy question to answer: Nobody! His intellect and wisdom are far beyond our human ability to comprehend.
After all…
God has worked out the complexities of every living cell–with perfect precision.
(X-ray microscopy combine to picture interior of living cell)
He has engineered a staggering number of specialized plants and creatures, carefully interrelated in a web of reliance upon one another.
He has created the unfathomable reaches of the universe filled with countless heavenly bodies of immeasurable proportions.
(Spiral Galaxy M74)
Such intellect and wisdom to accomplish these feats is incredible.
Yet, at the end of that same verse above, Paul makes a statement even more astounding. In fact, at first glance it seems ludicrous.
“We have the mind of Christ.”
What? How is that possible? His knowledge and wisdom are infinite; ours is markedly limited.
But Paul makes clear: we have the mind of Christ because he lives within us (Galatians 2:20).
Not that we can know everything and respond with pure wisdom in all situations. Our perfection is a process that won’t be completed until Jesus returns (Philippians 1:6).
But my heart beats a little bit faster to realize that, each day and for all my tomorrows, I might think more like Jesus, understand more like Jesus, and react more like Jesus.
One particular action will encourage progress: spending time with him, especially in his Word.
Here’s an analogy, though far from perfect. Steve and I have been married a very long time—forty-four years. At this point, we can finish each other’s sentences, supply missing information or words in a conversation, and sometimes even know what the other is thinking.
It’s as if we’ve acquired a bit of the other person’s mind. And it’s happened bit by bit, over time.
So I repeat: We will have the mind of Christ as we spend time with him day by day– especially in his Word.
And how will we know that his way of thinking is becoming our way of thinking? After all, there’s no measuring stick for spiritual growth.
Oswald Chambers, in My Utmost for His Highest, posed an excellent question that can help us determine our progress:
“Are other people beginning to see God in my life more and more (p. 78)?” Because a person with the mind of Christ will demonstrate Christ-like behavior.
Perhaps we could take an occasional inventory, based on the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23). The attributes listed in these two verses characterize a person with the mind of Christ–someone who is loving, joyful, peace-filled, patient, kind, good, and so on. We could ask ourselves, how have I demonstrated these attributes this week?
And what will be the result of cultivating the mind of Christ? “The mind controlled by the Spirit is life and peace” (Romans 8:6).
Life that is characterized by vitality and purpose.
Peace that includes inner-contentment, freedom from guilt, and security for eternity.
That sounds awfully good to me.
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Heavenly Father, we praise you for taking us into the high places of blessing in Jesus. That includes this gift: the mind of Christ. And day by day you are transforming us into his likeness, with ever-increasing glory. May I seize this day and its opportunities to think like you, understand like you, and react like you.
(Ephesians 1:3; 2 Corinthians 3:18)
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