A certain king known for his wealth and brutality, took a stroll one evening on the rooftop of his imposing palace. From his lofty vantage point, he could view the large and glorious city he’d created–with the back-breaking labor of thousands of slaves.
Numerous, handsome buildings made of brick and stone displayed the best architectural design of the time. He had spared no expense in their construction. Many said it was the most beautiful city on earth.
But the king had also been careful to reserve space for parks and gardens. Most awe-inspiring of all were the “hanging gardens” of Semiramis. Planted on the rooftops, they kept cool the rooms below and offered stunning beauty as well. Soon they had earned the prestigious recognition as one of the Seven Wonders of the World.
(One artist’s idea of what the hanging gardens may have looked like.)
The king threw his arms outward. “Look at this great and glorious city I have built,” he cried, “a fitting residence for a king of such mighty power as I!”
Someone heard the king’s boast–someone who detests the proud of heart (Proverbs 16:5), and who wields the power to bring disgrace to the prideful (Proverbs 11:2).
No sooner had King Nebuchadnezzar bragged about his glorious accomplishments, than he became insane and lost his throne for a period of seven years (Daniel 4:28-37).
(King Nebuchadnezzar, reduced to groveling among the beasts)
Clearly, we’d do well to avoid such boastful pride as Nebuchadnezzar demonstrated. But the repugnant trait manifests itself in other ways too. The prideful person:
- Puts self first, others second.
- Craves recognition, admiration, and attention.
- Takes credit for what others have done.
- Becomes defensive when differing views are presented.
- Rarely acknowledges sins, flaws, or mistakes.
- Blames others for failures.
- Resists advice, new information, or techniques.
Not a pretty package.
And according to Harry Emerson Fosdick: “A person wrapped up in himself makes a small package” as well (emphasis added).
(Harry Emerson Fosdick. (n.d.). AZQuotes.com. Retrieved January 11, 2018, from AZQuotes.com Web site: http://www.azquotes.com/quote/99920)
I have to admit, at sometime or other over my lifetime, I’ve exhibited every one of these unattractive symptoms of pride.
But what about confidence? Is that different? And what would it look like, to be confident without pride?
Paul exemplifies confidence in Philippians 4:13:
(“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”)
The difference between pride and confidence includes the source of each. Pride grows out of arrogance and conceit; confidence grows out of trust in God.
“Blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord,
whose confidence is in him”
–Jeremiah 17:7
And because the source is different, the resulting traits are different.
For the Christian, confidence is the quiet knowing that God is in control and all will be well in the end. Therefore he/she can set aside self-aggrandizement, express convictions, even confront others when necessary with grace and poise.
In addition, confidence fosters:
- Consideration of others before self (Philippians 2:3).
- Collaboration and cooperation with others (Psalm 133:1).
- Disinterest in the spotlight (Philippians 1:15-18).
- Recognition and praise to God, the Creator of all accomplishments (2 Corinthians 3:5-6).
- The desire for self-improvement with the help of God (Philippians 1:6).
- The desire for wisdom from God and godly people (Proverbs 19:20).
Now that’s a beautiful and grand package.
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Heavenly Father, thank you for your willingness to help me eradicate prideful thoughts the moment they manifest themselves. Thank you for showing me the way to live with confident trust in you —no longer over-protective of ego or overly concerned about self-interests—but surrendered to you and dependent on you, the Engineer of what’s best and the Source of all competency.
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Amen, to your prayer, Nancy … lately (while studying the 23rd Psalm) the Lord reminded me anew that I really am a sheep … ALWAYS in dire need of His leading, provision, and deep and loving care. How good of Him to be ever so patient with us!
Thank you, Heidi. Couldn’t agree more: I, too, am a sheep in dire need of his leading, provision, and deep, loving care. With you I praise God for his continuing patience.
great insights. You are a wonderful story teller bringing us into wisdom. I sure do appreciate your writing
Thank you, Jean, for your encouragement. I sure do appreciate YOUR writing, too! Speaking of which, I am slowly, thoughtfully, and prayerfully working through your “Process for Writing Spiritual Goals.” It has been like a mini-retreat each morning! Thank you so much for making it available. (Readers: you can access this valuable resource of Jean’s, as well as others, at her blog, http://healthyspirituality.org/writing-spiritual-goals/. You’ll be glad you did!)
Thank you for the reminder that any good thing I’ve achieved on this earth and the confidence derived from those accomplishments flows directly from Him. And the more that I give up self and surrender control to Him, the sweeter the attainment of success. Earlier today I did something good for someone who has wronged someone I love; I patted myself on the back…but it was the Lord who put the idea into my head. Acknowledging this (after reading your blog), I have a different perspective on my action as the credit goes to God for any good impression that I made. It is a reflection upon the work the Lord has done in my heart over the years. To God be the Glory! Thank you for this, Nancy!
Thank you for your sweet and humble testimony, Cheri. Turning prideful thoughts into praise is surely the first line of defense against an inflated ego. Praise God for his continuing work on all of us!
Hi Nancy,
Go forward with confidence in Christ! Good distinction from pride because there is a real sense of accomplishment in work done right in the Lord.
In Christ, Gary
Well said, Gary!
This is universal, applies to everyone. Excellent ,thanks. There is no chritian,
jewish or muslim God. just God, God is 1