Remember the in-crowd at your high school–the cool kids who wore the latest fashions, knew the latest songs, and seemed more attractive, confident, and important than everyone else?
‘Truth is, research has established “those who cared most about their social standing [as teenagers] often grow up to have difficulties with their interpersonal relationships years later.” Their fixation on status stays with them, and they are the ones most likely to suffer from anxiety, depression, and problems with substance abuse (1).
Now I’m thankful to never have been a part of that group.
But another in-crowd beckons–one that everyone is invited to join–that offers satisfaction in life and purpose.
It’s God’s in-group.
And just what does he have to offer?
God’s in-crowd is in their right minds (2 Timothy 1:7 NKJV).
They strive to focus on the positive, and turn their attention toward God himself—His attributes and works. People in their right minds are Presence-focused, remembering the almighty, all-wise God is with them. They’re also promise-fortified, affirming that God WILL keep their minds calm because they trust in him.
Such trust requires effort, since we often lean toward the negative. But like a wrangler who captures and subdues a wild horse, the in-crowd takes their problematic thoughts captive, and tames them with the bridle of God’s truth (2).
They also pray—perhaps like Selwyn Hughes: Lord, “I give You my mind—so that You can give me Yours” (3).
God’s in-crowd is in balance.
The Apostle John wrote to Gaius: “I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well” (3 John 2).
That’s quite a compliment. If John had written such a greeting to me, he may very well have reversed his statement, praying that my soul might prosper as well as my physical health.
Of course, both are necessary for overall well being. So just as proper diet, exercise, and sufficient rest are necessary for the body, the in-crowd keeps their souls healthy through a steady diet of God’s Word, the exercise of obedience, and rest in him.
God’s in-crowd is held in his hands.
King David wrote about the phenomenon in a prayer song to God: “My times are in your hands” (Psalm 31:15a). Those hands are powerful and mighty, open and generous, protective and secure—even when someone faces difficult challenges like the Apostle Paul.
While imprisoned in Rome and anticipating his execution, Paul affirmed the strength God provided him, the generosity of God to supply all needs, his contentment in spite of circumstances, and the security of knowing all would be well whether he lived or died (4).
The in-crowd faces their challenges with the same affirmations.
God’s in-crowd lives in God’s ways (Psalm 25:8-10).
Wisdom would have us know this: “Blessed are those who keep my ways. Listen to my instruction and be wise; do not ignore it. For whoever finds me finds life and receives favor from the Lord” (Proverbs 8:32-33, 35).
Critics may say, “Oh, but the Bible is so out-of-date. Times change; morals shift. What was once considered wise has been replaced by post-modern sensibilities.”
They need to observe God’s in-crowd, who delight in his Word because they find instruction for a life of purpose and meaning, preservation of life in his encouragement, and peace of mind in his truth—things post-modern sensibilities do not offer (5).
God’s in-crowd is in unity with one another, just as he desires (Ephesians 4:3; Colossians 3:13-14).
They remember: all God’s people belong to each other (Romans 12:5). So they focus on common ground and find ways to support one another rather than fuss over non-essential differences.
And as a unified group, God’s in-crowd is a force to be reckoned with.
Like snowflakes:
“Snowflakes are one of nature’s most fragile things.
But just look at what they can do when they stick together.”
–Vesta M. Kelly
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I praise you, Heavenly Father, that as we trust in your Son Jesus for eternal life, you also provide in-crowd status with all its privileges and spiritual blessings—to every believer. You are the God of surpassing goodness to your people!
(John 3:16; Ephesians 1:3-8; Psalm 84:11)
Notes:
- https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/cracking-the-popularity-code/
- Philippians 4:8; Romans 12:2; Deuteronomy 31:8; Isaiah 26:3; 2 Corinthians 10:5.
- Every Day Light, Broadman and Holman, 1997, p. 121.
- Psalm 118:15-16; 145:13b-21; John 10:29; Philippians 4:13,19, 11-12, and 1:21-24.
- Psalm 119:24, Philippians 2:13; John 10:10; Psalm 119:50 MSG, 93, 165.
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neat turn of this phrase, Nancy! make me think.
Thank you, Jean!
Very helpful post.
It can get really hard for me sometimes because I’m not in the crowd of all those worldly teens and I don’t seem to have any friends, but I have to remember that God is my friend and I belong to Him. I want to abstain from all appearance of evil.
Ah, Lydia, from what I’ve read on your blog, you are miles ahead of your years on the road to maturity. I pray God brings into your world a person or two who can see the beautiful gift of friendship you have to offer! Meanwhile, you are building a strong relationship with your Heavenly Father–a precious blessing to you for all time and beyond.
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Dear Nancy, you very last quote made me smile. At this very moment we have new trusses in our yard to get our roof repaired … yep, I am looking at what these snowflakes can do when they stick together 😂
Thanks for this beautiful reminder. I am printing it out to read to my teenage girls as a devotion!!!
Oh, that’s right–you DO know the power of snowflakes when they stick together! And praise God you found truths here worthy to share with your teenage girls. That makes me smile!
I, too, loved the Vesta M. Kelly quote. Also this jumped out at me: ‘Critics may say, “Oh, but the Bible is so out-of-date. Times change; morals shift. What was once considered wise has been replaced by post-modern sensibilities.”’ This is so sadly true, even in some of the former evangelical churches. To see this happening is very disturbing. This is why it is so important for born-again Christians to have personal time in the Word and in prayer.
I am SO thankful for the Bible training I’ve received over the years, starting in Sunday School, VBS, Good News Club, and youth groups, and continuing into adulthood with participation in numerous Bible studies. Many people–even long-time church members–have missed those opportunities and don’t realize the riches of timeless wisdom within its pages. But it’s never too late to start learning, to find delight in God’s decrees (Psalm 119:16)!
Loved seeing the end product, Nancy!
Thank you, Mitch!
Thanks, Nancy.
And thank YOU, Gary, for faithfully reading these posts!
Thank you for the same.